Wound care

I've postponed continuing my blog because I've felt like I needed to explain rex and his importance to me at this point. But writing it all out was too hard, and describing him while we were good seems pointless now.

Know he came, he conquered, and right now we're on a "break."

Something I realize is permanent, I just haven't conveyed that to him yet, and I'm still trying to convince myself it's the right thing to do. The objective thing to do. The mature thing to do.

I'm getting too old for this shit.

I'm doing a lot of self assessment right now. I don't trust men. Period. Yet at the same time I want to marry my best friend. I WANT to trust them. I want one to prove me wrong. One to sweep me off my feet and mean it. That's probably why I'm so hurt and disappointed in the ending of Rex.

He did, in fact, sweep me off my feet, he made me believe him. I was definitely cautious, I was skeptical that his thoughts for our future together weren't firmly planted. I was very resistant at first... something he noticed and called me on often. "You still have your walls up, don't judge me based on the others." So I threw caution to the wind and let myself fall. Did I think I was falling in love with him? Yes. Am I in love with him? No, we thankfully took our "break" before I could let myself completely ruin myself by letting myself love another disaster.

Why the break? I don't know. He went after me guns a'blazin', wouldn't take no for an answer, would drive over an hour at 6am when I was post call leaving the hospital at 7 - to make me breakfast and cuddle up to me until I fell asleep from exhaustion. He would blow up my phone, texting me all day with cute little smiley face pictures showing me he was thinking of me - making each of them original, and creative. And every day I'd smile and think that I was being too cautious, maybe he meant it, maybe this would work.

He spoke of our life together, how he would move to be near me, how perfect I was, how he'd been looking for someone like me for so long, how he couldn't believe we were together, how he'd been so happy telling everyone I was his girlfriend.

Then one day it changed. Life for him got busy, he became stressed with his job, his finances, his constantly renovated home (current project being the garage) and my text happy, smile sending boyfriend was gone. We didn't talk (we were long distance, so it's pretty much all we had) "I hate the phone, you know that." I showed my unhappiness, "what's the point of having a long distance girlfriend, rex, if you don't know what's going on in her life?"

Until finally, the three day weekend I'd been looking forward to spending with him (my first and only in 3 months) was canceled.

Why?

"I don't know how I feel about us."

Which left me speechless, heartbroken, and I heard myself saying "I don't think I should come down this weekend."
His response? "Maybe that would be for the best."

stab me.

So we talked, and he kept re-stating how he didn't know what was wrong with him *insert bullshit here*, to which I listened quietly, thinking this was our break up. Heart broken.

I told him how hurtful his actions were, how I was so angry that I believed him - which he counters stating he doesn't know how he feels, and that he meant everything he said, *more bullshit inserted here*.

I joked about thankfully avoiding meeting his parents, and how it was a good thing we didn't buy our "couples" halloween costumes - to which he horrifically asked what I was talking about. "I don't want to break up, I'm just stressed, I need to get my head straight, can I have, I don't know, two week?, just to see where I stand?, I don't know what's wrong with me"

He doesn't get it, he thinks I'm still his girlfriend, and for the last week I've been thinking about facing him on our "talk date" telling him I'm not ready for this. I'm too old for this. I think he's a waste of time and too fickle for me to deal with this late in the game.

I'm just so upset I believed him, and that I not only have to face him again in the near future - but hear his "verdict" on how he feels about us. I don't know what'll be worse, him wanting to work it out, or him deciding we weren't meant to me.

Hearing either will break my heart.

I'm sick of my heart breaking.

I don't think it can take anymore.